Some people believe that this world can be a very unhappy place because of the human condition. The world is the same for everyone and it has nothing to do with our happiness or sadness. It is the people in the world that cause pain and affliction for animals and other people. When we suffer, we want to find out who is responsible for our pain and suffering and we want to blame someone or something. For example, if you were abused as a child you might blame yourself or the abuser, then it becomes difficult to forgive yourself or that person. You can be lost in the past asking questions that no one can answer. The why, how, if, who, because, questions can create havoc in your head. You must move on, even if it is painful. There is no justified reason for resentment, bitterness, and unforgiveness. You can only create self-harm when you allow these feelings and emotions to invade your mind.

 

Over time you will become physically, emotionally and mentally sick. These negatives thoughts cause your body to secrete chemicals that will affect the major organs in your body. We heard the saying that resentment is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies. You are only killing yourself if you harbor resentment and bitterness. You extend forgiveness for two basic reasons, the first is to let others know that you no longer hold any hostility for that person and second, to free yourself from the bondage of the self-defeating energy of resentment. Some of the best gifts that you can give to yourself are love, compassion, empathy, and forgiveness. Find time to heal your body and soul and find your purpose in life.  Don?t think that you are just here, and things will just happen, and there is nothing that you can do about it. This is unproductive thinking. You can create the life you want and refuse to live in the past. If you do not allow yourself to move beyond the memories of the past you will rob yourself of the future. Your future can be great once you let go and be open to the love and freedom that exist in the universe. This might be very hard to do and sometimes you may need a professional or a coach to help you navigate through the baggage that is holding you hostage. It can be difficult, but it is not impossible.